by Sue Langeder

Created on: February 13, 2010

After 18 years of being in a stale relationship, it was hard to accept that someone could love me for me. What was attractive about me? After all, I am in my mid thirties, with two children and not wanting any more. Men my age are either wanting to start their own family, or already have their own baggage. It's not what I want. At the same time, what qualities did I want from my 'new man'? I knew I needed to be stimulated - physically, mentally and spiritually. I wanted the feelings to be reciprocated. I wanted a love that was undeniably mutual, with no boundaries. Stuff the movies are made from...

Almost six months after my husband left, my enthusiasm for love had been re-ignited. An unlikely source. A man who was 17 years my senior, living thousands and thousands of miles away (a 24-hour plane flight away) and unhappily married. But instantly, we both felt that we touched each other's souls.

He is compassionate. He is willing to listen to me and value what I have to say. He teaches me beyond my learned experience. He is inspired by my personal quests of weight loss, the courage to leave my husband and my eagerness to change my career. He is funny, and he laughs at my jokes. And sexually, he is Nirvana...

We met on a dating web site. He spurred my interest when he picked up on things that I felt were 'my assets' on my profile, but also what traits I was looking for in a man that he felt that he could bring to the party. I wasn't interested in an older man, as my husband was 10 years older than me and was becoming a misery in his old age, where I had new found vitality. But, the man I will call my 'sexy Texan' has an abundance of life in him, a man who is inspired by human achievement and saddened by human tragedy. And knows how to speak his mind without causing offense or embarrassment.

Our first official Skype date was five and a half hours long. Five and a half hours of can't wipe the smile off my face, spine tingling pure bliss. For the next three weeks, we spoke every day either through Skype chat or video-chat for anything between one hour and ten hours in a day. He melted my heart. Within a week, he told me that he loves me by showing me the international hand signal for 'I love you' (but then needing to explain what he was doing!)

We had our first tiff within two weeks. I pushed too hard on the 'wife' issue. She had been away for the entire time that we were communicating, but was soon to be home and the tension was concerning us both. Overnight, he

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