by Linda L Kinyon

Created on: February 11, 2010

Fear of rejection in our daily lives often prevents us from experiencing life and all it has to offer. Hurting us to the very core and yet, its a sad part of reality when we feel this way. For some this is a personal affront affecting them to their very soul. For other it is simply another piece of paper or attitude that they face on a daily basis and they tend to take it in stride.

What makes the difference between the person that fears rejection and those that seem to roll with it and take it in stride? Is it their personality or is it more in depth?

Our past makes us who we are today and often memories of our hurts from childhood surface and we don't even realize we have been holding on to those resentments and fears. Learn to let go of the past and deal with your hurts in a healthy way. Remember that this is the present, not the past.

Learning not to take rejection personal is a big step in learning how to deal with it in our daily lives. If you are a writer and your article or manuscript is rejected find out why before you jump to conclusions. Often its not what the company was looking for at a given time or perhaps they just had an article on that topic.

Learning to look for the reasons outside of ourselves is a huge step in dealing with this in a healthy manner. Don't allow a it to ruin your life. It simply means you have another opportunity at hand to fine tune your job interview skills or another opportunity to submit your manuscript elsewhere.

Rejection from family and friends is very painful. Take into consideration what you really want in a friend before you allow it to wound your very soul. True friends are there for us regardless of how we act or feel. If someone is not a true friend and rejects you the friendship most likely was never worth having to begin with.

When you are rejected by a family member remember that you can't choose your relatives. Sometimes we are stuck with a family member that is hurtful or spiteful. Learning to accept them for who and what they are and not let it get to us can be handled easily when we look for a good quality within them. Perhaps the family member that always offends everyone bakes beautiful cakes and decorates them gorgeously. Learning to focus on a good quality will often help us deal with these feelings on another level.

If you feel rejection on a daily basis perhaps you are setting your standards too high. Lowering your standards and allowing others to be who they are often will resolve these feelings. We are all different in personality and those differences are what makes us unique.

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