by Liz Hartford

Created on: February 10, 2010

Adjusting to the military lifestyle from the spouses’ point of view, the military way of life is very different than just your ordinary day to day life. Getting adjusted to the military life can be just as difficult but not impossible. If you marry a member of the Armed Forces or if your spouse enlists or is commissioned, the changes they face are similar to the same ones that the spouse faces. 

The military is very structured and things are done in a proper way. This is a must to the service member as well for his spouse and his family. There are several tips that can make this process seamless. 

Remember that you’re new to the military lifestyle and instead of just jumping into things it is better to sit back and observe. This is important because not everyone will act up to military standards. (I would recommend not to associate with these people, you don’t need any issues when your're new to the military).

The Armed Services expect their members and their member’s family’s to act a certain way on and off the base. A good rule of thumb always is pleasant because you never know who is watching you, listening and observing you. I have seen personally, a woman at the commissary basically jump in front of a long line because her husband was the Captain of an aircraft carrier and she was so much more important than we were so she should get to go first.

What she didn’t know was a very pleasant lady of whom she did that to was the Admiral of the Pacific Fleet spouse and she made sure to get the ladies name. Not a good thing at all.

You will receive a dependant Military ID Card. DON’T LOSE IT. I say this because I have seen several people lose theirs and it has your life on it and your spouse’s life on it. That card is like gold to someone who would love to steal your identity.

With the military there comes services that non-military personal do not have. Base Exchange privileges will save you money and get necessary items. Commissary this is the grocery store. Now it isn’t always the best deal in town but you can shop sales and get some stuff off the base. For me it has to be a really good deal for me not to go to the commissary.

Most military bases offer services on the base that is cost effective, like entertainment for example;  movies, bowling and golf just to name a few.

It is very important that you start getting to know people in your spouses command because most tours of duty are between 2 to 4 years at a time and if your spouse deploys within that time frame, these will be people that can help you cope with the deployment. Most commands have a family support group and this is a good way to meet new people and get vital information. 

The last bit of advice that should be given when adjusting to the military lifestyle is to always look the part. You don’t get a second chance to make a first impression. If you don’t give your best or just having an off day, try not to meet anyone.  

I know we all have those days. One more item that is necessary to include, is if someone is coming by your home. I know what some people may be thinking, well if they come unannounced then it isn’t my problem, right?  

That would be wrong and even more so if you live in base housing. A good rule of thumb is to keep your home as clean as possible because you never know who could be ringing the bell.

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