by Victoria Betz

Created on: February 09, 2010

When people think of the single life, they usually only go in one of two directions. The fun-loving flirtatious view, or the lonely depressed view. But if you really think about it, there’s so much more than that.

I was recently broken up with a few months ago and I can still feel the hurt. Teenage love has no limits. People can say that it’s not real, and maybe it isn’t, but it still connects with us teens on a very emotional level. When the relationship was ended I was crushed. I couldn’t help but ask myself what I could’ve done better to make things work. After giving it some thought I realized that it was really his fault. I never did anything wrong, HE was the one who dumped ME for some one else. After getting in my head that it was his loss, I became lonely. I was always so used to having some one there for me when I really needed it. It wasn't just him as a person whom I missed. I just missed sharing that emotional connection with someone of the opposite sex.

I wouldn’t call myself desperate, because that’s an overstatement. I am just looking for some one new. The only problem is that I can never find some one who is good enough. Every time I become close to starting a new relationship, I feel like I don’t want to be tied down again. So I pull away from that person then come to feel lonely again and start the process again.

Being single also has it's perks. When I go out with my friends I don't have to worry about flirting. I have no one to fight with about stupid things, giving me much less stress. Many people prefer to be single, and I might be one of them against my own will. Though I miss having some one there for me at all times. I really don't want to be tied down again. It puts much more stress on me as a person.

Many adults who hear me talk about trying to find a new boyfriend tell me that I am much too young to be worrying about boys and that I should enjoy being a teenager. But doesn't being a teenager include your first love? Even adults can admit having a “special someone” as a teen. At this point in our lives, teenagers are beginning to find feelings that they never knew they had. Both physical and emotional. I don’t mean that all teens are just following their hormones when it comes to teenage “love” (though there are some who do) but rather we are exploring these new feelings.

Yes, I want a new boyfriend, but then again I don’t. Is it really worth it? My answer is yes. Though I confuse myself when it comes to guys, I know that all of this is just the experience of being a teen and it’ll all be worth it in the end.

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