by Frankie Haney

Created on: February 07, 2010

When I was a child, I believed there was one true mate for each of us.  How silly that all seems now.  Imagine all the people in this crowded world of ours, and how difficult it would be to find that one true soulmate.  Of course in my childish, fairytale fantasies, I assumed somehow, magically, this person would appear to me, and we would both just know we had met our one true love.  That somehow, the angel of love would arrange our paths to cross and a light would come on.  I was naive enough to believe, when the first time I fell in love, that it was the forever kind, and it was my one and only chance at happiness.  We married and after fifteen years and three wonderful children, my fairytale marriage ended.  I was dumbfounded that I had lost in love.  Nobody ever told me that love doesn't come with guarantees.  They didn't tell me that people have the ability to love more than once.  As I look back, I can now see that because I was so headstrong and determined, my friends and family assumed I knew what I was doing.  I never discussed my innocent views of love with anyone, but knew without doubt, that I was in love, and marriage was naturally the next step.

I do believe in soulmates, but I don't believe there is only one soulmate for each of us for all times.  A soulmate is someone that you not only love with all of your heart, but someone that fits you so perfectly, that you can't imagine living without them.  Someone that you know beyond a shadow of a doubt, that they love you back with the same intensity.  Your soulmate understands you and feels your pain when you are hurt because you are now one entity.  To hurt you, would be to hurt themselves.  When you receive honor, they feel honored.

Now older, and hopefully much wiser, I believe I have found my soulmate.  I have made mistakes in my life and I know what doesn't work and what isn't the forever love.  With all of this knowledge and wisdom under my belt, I began looking for love again.  I knew the basic requirements that I needed and joined a few free internet dating sites.  I decided that by being methodical in my quest, and letting the computer do the searching, it would be a faster way to meet potential mates.  I wanted to be very careful of course, and not subject myself to any dangers lurking in cyber space, so I was very cautious.  I met a few friends during

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