by Ct Falk

Created on: January 29, 2010

Like everything in this world, to carry out an action it must be well thought and follow a simple set of rules decided by all parties involved. This statement also applies to relationships. The first thing any person should do when that certain someone captures your interest, is to ask yourself, "What do I want from this and what am I willing to do to get it?" If you want endless love from this person, be pretty positive you’re willing to sacrifice a lot in the process. Once you have come to the conclusion in your mind, then you’re ready to pursue things further. But be aware that this conclusion has the tendency to change over time, and may change a little faster than expected (this is where planning comes into play).

In the beginning it can be a little tough to identify who this person really is and what they are about. The best thing to do is establish a solid base for the relationship. Many people say a relationship is built, and yes this is true, but anything that is going to be built needs a solid foundation to stand on. The best way to decide what kind of foundation is needed for your relationship is to base it on values and thought processes that you and your potentially life-long partner have in common. A futuristic outlook is one of the most important factors in this process. If your life-long dream is to move to Europe and have 4 children, but your partner has goals set which keep them in one place, then it may be best to let this one go. A simple way to put this is, don’t set yourself up for failure. If you know that the one you’re falling for will one day leave your grasp, then it would be best for you to walk away before any damage can be done.

Once the foundation is set and a serious relationship has began to blossom, be prepared to ask again, "What do I want from this and what am I willing to do to get it?" However, this time you should include your partner in this. Ask them the same question and compare your answers. If you find that there is a conflict of interest in what each other’s answers are then it’s time to go back to the foundation that was established and redesign the plan. When doing this, single out the major issues that will affect the relationship and be prepared to offer a sacrifice. Maybe you and your partner aren’t going out as much as you used to, or possibly spending more time with friends and family than each other,

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