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At the time of this writing, I have been happily married for going on 14 years. Yet from day one, friends of my wife were practically betting that I'd be cheating on her as early as after two-three years of marriage. Of course, all of the negative predictions were coming from single women who had been messed over by a man. But I took offense at the confidence by which they were so sure I would fall victim to adultery like their male counterparts.

As angry as I was about them projecting negativity into my marriage, statistically I could understand where their negativity came from. The divorce rate in the church is almost the same as the divorce rate in the world, 50%. So how can you keep your marriage fresh and remain true to each other? This blog is one Christian's answer to that question.

First of all, as a Christian, you cannot keep God out of the equation. He must be the center of the relationship, the bouy you each hang on to as the years go by and both of you change, especially physically. "God is the same yesterday, today and forvermore." Therefore keeping Him first in your relationship is of the utmost importance. Next, nothing, and I mean "nothing" is worth more than the trust developed between two people in a relationship. It takes time to earn trust in each other. It is as precious a rare diamond. It is when you feel totally secure with each other and trust each other 100% that you know you are marrying the right person.

Don't justify or rationalize trust, saying things like, "I'll trust them soon enough. We'll go on and get married." If there is any inkling of a feeling that you are about to marry the wrong person, put your pride aside and get marriage counseling right away. In counseling you find out if the two of you are really right for each other by being asked questions by someone who is objective.

When you are with the right person, when you are together, you each seem to make the other a better person. You each have a weakness and sometimes together you have no weaknesses when united as one.

Now to the matter at hand, now that we've reviewed how do you know when you are marrying the right person. How do you keep your marriage strong?

If you are a Christian, the answer is in the Word itself;

(Prov.5:3-6) "The lips of an immoral woman are as sweet as honey, and her mouth is smoother than oil. But the result is as bitter as poison, sharp as a double-edged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave. For she doesnot care

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