by Michelle Paszkowski

Created on: January 24, 2010   Last Updated: January 25, 2010

Can Love Grow Cold?

I don't believe that true love can ever grow "cold". I think if two people are actually in true love, the real thing, it never dies or grows weak. When people express that they have fallen out of love with someone, I think the truth is that it wasn't really love to begin with. Take high school sweethearts for instance. At the age of sixteen most are in "young love". They truly, whole-heartedly believe that life revolves around their boyfriend/girlfriend. But as we all know, the reality of marrying and actually staying married to your high school sweetheart is that it almost never happens. And when the "puppy love" fades the young couple will assume they have fallen out of love. Had it been the real thing, even if they broke up, the love would still be there.

While I don't believe that true love can grow cold, I do believe some couples can get into a routine that may make them question their feelings. When two people have been together for a substantial amount of time, they start to lose the "magic". In that I simply mean, there is less to talk about, less surprises, less love making, and less dating. Once a couple has made it past the first three passion filled years, things can dull a bit. That's not to say it grows cold, but rather it becomes work to keep it growing in the right direction. If a couple can realize that marriage is a job, then they can work together to keep the chemistry sizzling.

These days so many marriages end when one feels like the love is gone. People get married thinking every day for the rest of their lives will be filled with passion, and late nights, and champagne under the stars. The truth is that phase ends quite soon after the vows take place. If you are truly one hundred percent in love with your partner, you will do anything to keep it together. Happy couples that have been married for years will tell you, it takes work, dedication, and a good imagination. After ten years of marriage I can tell you the butterflies may be gone, but my heart still skips when my husband walks into a room. It doesn't come easy, we've gone through every tragedy and fight there is. But I believed the day I met him that he was the one. And when I married him I took vows to be faithful, and love him for better or worse. If you stick to those vows, love will never grow "cold".

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