by Sinny

Created on: January 19, 2010   Last Updated: January 21, 2010

My little one enjoyed being the king of all his toys. He enjoyed being with other kids as long as they don't take his little possessions. We seldom thought about it until we realized it was time for the second child. Then we started exploring ways to prepare for him to understand that it's going to be home for the new baby too. We bought a small doll and named him "bingo." Anything we bought would be divided by 4. Though he was bit unhappy about it in thebeginning, however, in a long run he liked being responsible and taking care of the little one. Then when I was pregnant again we started showing him small babies wherever we could and started telling him that he has to take care of the new baby.

Once I told my baby in the womb, "When you come out your brother will take care of you". He said "Yes! I will give him milk, biscuit.....mmm but not my toys". I was very much relieved to hear the first part of what he said. Because I have seen my friend's daughter crying everytime she used to feed the younger one. In a long run I realised that she stopped breastfeeding the second baby at a very early stage because she was annoyed at taking care of the first kid. So we took these steps to make sure that at least the new baby would not be deprived of food. Most mothers who would not have gotten depressed after the first delivery could easily get post natal depression after their second delivery. So it's better to take steps before delivery to save yourselves at a later point of time.

But my son being possessive of his things might not want to share them. So when we got a new bed for the new baby we got a new one for our first son too. It was bit expensive, but making such small contributions will help to keep  the tender heart from being hurt.

Now I have 2 kids. Yes! they fight. But my elder one is really "the guardian " for my younger son. The first trick of keeping the first kid happier is to treat them as the most responsible ones on earth. The second trick is to share all positive deeds he does with your friends in his presence. They feel much better and happier and enjoy doing good things.

All the little hearts expect our love and attention. They enjoyed getting it all and may not want to share even a part of it to any one else. So our part is to make them realize that its time for them to show the love that we shower on them to his younger buddies.

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