by Josiphene Taylor

Created on: February 19, 2007   Last Updated: April 28, 2010

Have a bad case of unrequited love? We've all been there..."But THEY were the ONE!" You were thinking in terms of forever- they were thinking in terms of tomorrow. Or maybe they gave you a friendly pat after you just divulged your undying love for them. Or maybe, you could never tell them because you knew it was pointless. Regardless of how your sad case went about, it hurts all the same. Visions of weeping alone flashes through my head...

Question: Is it worth it?
Answer: No.

You've all heard the same saying, "He/She's not worth your tears." It's true! Why would you want to be with someone that makes you feel like the scum in your single brother's bathtub? This person just made you feel like someone took a knife and drove it through your heart. Sounds dramatic? It is. The sad part is, no matter how much someone tells you to not feel this way, you're going to anyway. Human nature, my friend. The best, most painstakingly slow remedy? Time. Give yourself time.
Yes, time does heal all wounds...and if not, it sure makes them feel a hell of a lot better.

Some tips?

-Take a class. Nothing is better than starting something new to signify your newly thought out feelings. I suggest kickboxing for those angry folk, or yoga for the ones who need to calm down. Chances are, you'll meet some friends, feel better, and...start...slowly...taking your mind off of it.

-Become an expert in a field everybody would be shocked by. Are you known to enjoy frat party kegs? Take a wine class. Tell everyone why Pinor Noir is your favorite, without saying..."It's just like yeah, so um good."

-Travel. Save up some money and go to a country you've always claimed you want to go- but never quite had the gumption to actually get on that plane. Chances are you'll have an amazing time, take some great photos, and now with the beauty of photo sharing sites, you'll be able to post pictures everyone can see. (and hopefully Mr. John or Jane Doe who broke your heart...hint: make sure you SMILE in those photos!) You're happy, damnit!

-Learn to be by yourself, and enjoy it. Take those few alone moments and not only be comfortable with it, but savor in them. Read a book, watch a movie, reflect and remember the ones that treated you right, and the ones that will always be there for you.

-My personal favorite? Okay, this might by childish and immature, so you don't have to admit to doing this but- write down a list of all the things that ever bothered you about this person, their flaws that you simply looked over because you were sooooooooo in love with them. You'll probably have to get an extra pad, because the memories will start flying. Then stop. Think of how silly all your moaning and groaning was.

-Turn on some music that says exactly how you feel. Blast it in your car on the way to work, and sing on the top of your lungs. I recommend Indigo Girls for some good unrequited love songs.

-Last but not least? Do what you know would best help you. You are your own best judge.

Love will come again!

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