by Tam Frager

Created on: January 17, 2010

It’s easy to steer off course while searching for Mr. Right. Fear of being alone, the idea of "love conquers all," the belief that a man can be changed by the love of the right woman - these are all reasons that women marry Mr. Wrong. If you’re thinking about marrying someone, look over this list to make sure your guy isn’t on it. These are the 10 men - in no particular order - you should never marry.

1. Abusive

The phrase "abusive husband" brings to mind black eyes, broken bones, and shouting that can be heard by all the neighbors. While this type of abuse seems obvious, there are other, more subtle forms abuse can take.

If he belittles you, tells you that you're worthless, or insults you - that's abuse. If he coerces or forces you to do things that make you uncomfortable - dressing a certain way when you go out, acting a specific way in front of his friends - that's abuse. If he forces you to have sex or to perform sexual acts that you're uncomfortable with - that's abuse. Abusive men rarely change, even after counseling. If the man you're with exhibits abusive behavior, get out of the relationship. Whatever you do, don't marry the abusive man.

2. Distant

Classic Hollywood films often show the "strong, silent type." A man who needs nothing and no one. He's left humanity behind, and he like it that way. In the movies, he's usually rescued from himself by a woman who tears down the wall he's erected and leads him back to the human race. This makes a romantic story arc, but the reality is usually quite different.

It's unlikely that a man who is emotionally distant will suddenly change. If he's been distant throughout your pre-marriage relationship, he'll remain distant after you marry. Don't saddle yourself with a man who is unwilling or unable to tell you what he wants or needs. Marriage is a partnership, and both people have to be equally invested. If he won't share himself with you, don't marry him.

3. Clinging

The opposite of a man who is distant is the man who clings. This is a man who wants to be around you all the time. He can't stand to be apart. On the surface, many women think this sounds romantic. Any romance will quickly fade, however, when you realize that you have no time to yourself.

The clingy man may whine when you want to go out with your girlfriends, and pout and mope if you actually do go out without him. He may may be upset if you want to read - or do any solo activity -because he can't participate with you. He wants all

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