by Mariel

Created on: January 16, 2010

One of the hardest things that men often state is that “they cannot understand women”, this has been cause for many discussions, conflicts and even breaking up in human couple relationships.

Of course, women are not easy to understand, as a woman I am willing to volunteer that much. It is often that we find ourselves jumping from one state of mind to the next, from “yes” to “no” in a heartbeat or even sooner than that; but the point is not to understand all the women of the world, it is to understand THAT woman that is special to you.

I have friends that often ask me why their women tell them this or that thing, why it that they act in this is or that manner.  And why is it that they get mad, offended and hurt when they behave in this or that manner; something that to them is really unimportant. 

I tell them exactly the same thing over and over again:  Each woman has specific things that she wants to say or to be told; there are things that she can live with and things that she cannot live without.  Knowing YOUR woman is the entire thing, forget about understanding women when you are dating (aka browsing), women do not care nor do they try to understand those men whom they date when there is nothing more that attracts them than just the action of going out with somebody.

It is important in any relationship that the small details are discussed and cleared before they turn into huge gaps.  Usually women are willing to speak about their feelings and their needs but this might seem overwhelming to men, not because men are unreasonable or unable to understand the problem begins when the women try to deepen, find a solution and sometimes convince their men that whatever it is that they are doing hurts, offends them or is not the right thing.

While many authors state that women and men have irreconcilable differences, I do not agree. I believe that men and women have one problem and that is the way they were taught to think; for men, things have to be simple and uncomplicated, deep analysis of human psyche, emotions and actions mixed with the philosophy that comes with them is not a way they are taught to think. 

On the other hand, women are not taught to take the easy way when it comes to a thought process.  For us things are always complicated, we have to be aware and be warned about the social, personal, familiar, professional implications and interactions of everything we do.  We are trained

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