by Juniper Shea

Created on: January 15, 2010

Some people get married for different reasons and mostly it's for love.  Though love is so powerful you would be willing to marry even if you vowed you would never get married, there are some people who don't get married for love.  Some people decide to get married for fincial reasons and of course family reasons although overall your still vowing to try and make this relationship work.  Does saying "I do" mean happy ever after forever?

There is so many issues that can surface from getting married, old wounds and other situations but really how you deal with this issues it what determines if this marriage is going to work.  So what are some helpful tips to make a relationship work and does it even work?  Marriage is like a life long friendship and with your vowes comes your agreeance that you willt try yoru best and when hearing tips you may ask yourself do they really help?  Will I really have a happy every efter ending?

They always say to never be made at one another at the same time.  Also make sure you compliment the other daily becuase this helps reasure each other just how much you both love one antoher.  They say to alway give a listening ear and to let your mate watch what they want to watch.  They say to never yell over one another becuase no one get heard in this situation and most importantly, to say I love to each other everyday.  Of course we ask, does any of this really work?

Well, sure it does; even a little effort in makng sure your mate understands that your making the effort to make this works.  Of course this wont work everyday but the majority of the time your efforts will be seen.  And after years has gone by the two of you, sure this gets harder.  In every relationship you will be in one always takes for granted the other and this makes some feel bitter.  Overal it's communication that can rule or break a relationship.

Without communication you would never know if your spouse was being sincere or is mad.  You would never know how your spouse felt for you or know why they were mad at you.  Without the simple skill of communicating one would never be able to resovle an issue and both would continue to be upset with one another.  Basically, it's with communication and effort you can have a happy ending.  Love is patient, understanding, warm, kind, engaging and many more things; why not try and make your marriage work by showing effort and communicating your feelings daily?

And when you have forgotten that you love your spouse, just try and remind yourself how they can make you feel.  Try and remember that you both said "I do" and add a little communication; even if it is you saying you were wrong, just know it's better to forgive then to harbor and anger and in the end I am sure you will live happily ever after!

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