by Paul Manalo

Created on: January 14, 2010   Last Updated: February 28, 2010

As a self confessed Mr. Not Nice guy, I know the ins and outs of what attracts a woman. Honestly, I still doubt if I am to reveal here what is inside the mind of a ‘not nice guy.’ I am afraid of jerks swarming to my house threatening to burn me alive for ruining their game.

Contrary to the common belief, not all women stand equally in the eyes of a not nice guy. Some women are considered ‘the next girl’ while some really stands out. The categorization is not determined by the women’s physical attribute but rather by the way she plays the relationship. Below, I will list some of the pointers that will help you in dating a not so nice guy.

•ROUTINE

These guys love movement. They love action. Never settle to a routine. The moment he found himself bored in the relationship, I assure you, he will leave. Don’t eat in the same old restaurant. No matter how classy the place is, it will lose its mojo if you eat there thrice a week. Stop always reserving movie tickets for Saturday date. Go somewhere else. Do something else.

•CLINGY

Being clingy and needy is the hydrogen bomb of the relationship with these men. Yes, it could work with the last guy you dated who is a computer programmer but I am telling you it will not work for this breed of men. Being clingy and needy communicates to him one thing; you just sprang the trap of his charms and smoothness. You are just the next girl.

•MAGIC WORD

No matter how much good feelings that are inside you when he is around and no matter how much loneliness you feel when he is not around, please don’t say the magic three words of “I love you.” In the dictionary of these men these three words translate to them as “GAME OVER.”

I am not telling that you have to hide your feelings forever, just let him work for it.

•JUST RIDE THE GAME

Sometimes, the best thing is to not expect anything from these men. Yes, they can give you emotional highs and the best feeling in the world but some men are not really built for a long term relationship. Don’t try to fix them and stop dreaming that he will settle for you. Just cherish the present moments with him but don’t expect anything for tomorrow.

I hope you learned from the pointers above. I cannot assure you that by doing these things you can make him stick to you forever, what I know is he will stick to you longer.

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