by Diane Majett

Created on: February 19, 2007   Last Updated: May 02, 2007

No one should jump right into marriage when they meet a person because alot of our own behaviors contribute to the end result of divorce. The same way if you build a house with rotted wood, or unstraitened metal drywall studs, and the house will never be built to code, or at a standard good enough to live in. One thing that we focus to much on in the beginning is our selfish wants. And forget that there is an other individual who has wants, that we must be willing to fill. So in the beginning its a give and take. Then we have to analyze the persons tendancies and attitudes toward the opposite sex. Not to say that that is what will define your relationship together, but it is relevant as a fact that must be addressed to find out if he feels you are valuable enough to him to change his ways. It can work if the beginning is held as a look before you leap scenario. Women get into relationships with men, assuming t hat the man has learned everything they need to know to make her happy. Well surprise ladies, they may never have even know real love, which is way beyond sex, and it is now your job to teach him. As his other half, you are supposed to exhibit your love by sharing about behariors. Communication is worth its weight in diamonds.

There is supposed to be enough love for t he other person that it shows to everyone else. And certainly with that significant other, because anyone can smell a rat that pretends to know love. The test will prove itself sure, when you are tested to handle the things about your mate that you don't like. Do you love them enough to help them through it. Cause love is about building the person you love to be the best at love. And not everyone will be willing to mold themselves correctly. But thats your job to find out before you jump righ into marriage to them. Choose someone who completes you and loves you enough to see your faults, and hurt because of it. Your love is not supposed to be a test of a promise that is broken, but a quest to see your love as the best person that they can be to himself and you.

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