by David Riel

Created on: January 09, 2010   Last Updated: September 25, 2011

To learn how to enjoy evenings at home alone you simply have to cultivate the right attitude.  Once you do, you'll find you enjoy evenings at home alone even if you'd rather not be single. 

Because there is nothing more luxurious than having your home to yourself in the evening.  The bustle of  the day is over, you can unplug your phone if you wish, there is nobody to disturb you, no demands to meet.  Nobody to take care of other than yourself.

To cultivate the right attitude about enjoying your time alone  you have to change your focus from what you lack - company - to what you have.  What's that?  You're sitting by yourself, alone, what do you have that anybody would want?

The answer is simple: freedom.  You have the freedom to indulge in whatever pursuits fuel your passion.  Instead of going out to a social event that someone else wants you to attend, and making small talk with their boring friends, or watching television shows that you wouldn't choose to watch yourself, you are free to do anything you please.

Watch couples next time you go out.  Notice the dead look in the eyes of most of them as one of them drags the other one around.  And God help them if they have kids in tow.  Now, imagine them at home in the evening.  It only gets worse.  No good music, or books.  No serious study, or engaging in the production of art, or literature.  Probably not even a good classic movie.

No, for them it's television, junk food, and a lot of chatter. If they're lucky it's just noisy, if not, there is serious disharmony as everything from what to watch on television to what time to go to bed must be decided through negotiation that would challenge the skills of the hardest union boss.

But you, home alone in the evening, have nobody to please but yourself. Single life is simply better.

You are free to watch Citizen Kane while sipping Courvoisier, spend the entire evening learning to speak Thai,  playing Brown Sugar on your  Stratocaster,  eating champagne truffles and reading the  latest novel by Diana Gabaldon, or listening to Britain's Got Talent surprise star Susan Boyle hit album, I Dreamed a Dream.

In other words, you are free to indulge yourself in ways that couples, and those strapped with children, could never hope to do, and could only dimly imagine.

There is nothing more luxurious than being home alone in the evening.  Now you've learned how to enjoy evenings at home alone, you'll find single life much more pleasurable.  With the right attitude, and a little planning to ensure you have a good book, foodstuff, or libation, you'll find your evenings at home alone to be by far the best time of your day.

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