by Jason Greer

Created on: January 09, 2010   Last Updated: October 25, 2010

Nervous about the big date?  Is your head running through numerous outlandish scenarios as they do in the movies and television?  Or there is the more important question, what is it you are so worried about?  Yes it is a common fact of dating that the first one plays a very crucial role in the direction of the relationship, because if one of the two is not interested in a second date then it's all over right there, on the spot, BAM! Yet don't let the pressures of trying to pull off a successful first date knock you off your game.  This is a situation like many situations in life that could be solved easily if one chose to apply common sense knowledge and the stone cold truth.  The point is this just because having a successful first state is so important does not mean it is difficult on any level, as a matter of fact the only reason it is difficult is because usually that is the way we make it!  After a few quick realizations finding a topic to make conversation at least apparent is as easy as ordering your meal.  After all I think the simplicity of first date conversation was best stated by a quote from the fictitious but brilliant cinematic figure known as Van Wilder " when he said; "First dates are interviews!"

Leading into one of the most crucial elements of first date conversation is remembering three very simple things to keep one from getting nervous so that he or she does not fumble their words, stutter, or linger in uncomfortable silence. The first thing one needs to keep in mind is you are on the date, which means they said yes. Drawing us to the assumption that some part of he or she, either tiny or large,  is interested enough to spend  their precious time with you.  Secondly try and remember the wisdom of Mr. Wilder, because if you look at it first dates are a lot like job interviews.  First and foremost on the first date each person is typically allotted a series of what some might consider standard questions that actually serve as ice breakers, however if the right question is asked then that conversation could carry on into appetizers.  However that boat of luck happens to set sail before you can hop on, there  is a third and final truth that one must keep fresh in the mind while on the first date.  This tiny nugget of wisdom is the most precious of the three as it is the most commonly over looked fact maybe in all of dating.  Some of humanity's most essential, crucial,

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