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I agree in a perfect world biological fathers would be more responsible for fathering children but some were not cut out to be responsible. As far as I am concerned it was much easier on me because my biological father has never had any contact with me. He and my mother married and were divorced when I was 5. I have no desire to have a relationship with him and why should I since he bailed out on myself and my four sisters. I have a vague idea where he is. This works for me because I was never used as a pawn in my parent's divorce and never had to choose sides. I just consider him "dead" in my life and don't think about him.

I had a unique situation in that my grandmother raised me from the age of 3 months. I kept contact with my mother because this was my maternal grandmother and my mother would visit a couple of times a year. She remarried when I was around 7 so my stepfather was like my father. I have four full sisters and one half sister by my stepfather. None of us full sisters has had any contact with our father. Now there are several grandchildren in our family that he will never know also. He does not know us or his grandchildren and that is his lost. He apparently remarried and had no more children. Some men were never meant to be fathers except the biological kind. In that case it is better for them to not have any contact with their children.

Some of my friends are single mothers and their children are angry that their father has started a new life with someone else, but still want a relationship with them. Why do the fathers think they have the right to still expect a loving relationship with their child when they did not have one when they were with the family and especially when they walk out of the family? They want their cake and eat it too. You can't have it both ways. You either work on your marriage or relationships and be there for your children or you walk away and if you do you keep on walking. If the child wants you for whatever reason they will find you, otherwise it is probably better to leave them alone.

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