by Dan Williams

Created on: January 06, 2010   Last Updated: January 07, 2010

The joy of being in love again presumes one was in love in the past. Yes, one might have been, a spouse might have passed away or even through divorce. There are many times that one realizes late in life that they did not know what love is. Love, that nebulous feeling that poets and philosophers have written about and struggled with for centuries.

Love, true love is a combination of the right chemistry between two individuals, the maturity of each person, and the regrets and character development of both. The joy of falling love far surpasses any emotion that can be expressed by a human. When love is combined with best friends, friends that can and will share anything with each other, then that relationship is unbreakable. What an amazing feeling to have the reassurance, the confidence of true love and unconditional friendship.

Easy to write about, easy to experience in the beginning stages, but difficult to find and difficult to maintain. Love and friendship of any magnitude is fraught with ghosts of the past, seeds that have been sewed by other relationships, and stress of daily life. The joy of love is when both parties recognize complacency, and routine, and become motivated to pull out of it. The joy of love is the daily kiss when one least expects it, as well as the routine kiss and hug. The joy of love is laughter having a grilled cheese sandwich on the kitchen floor.

Life hands us paths, these paths occur daily and we choose which one to walk down. Someday that path may lead you to your true love. When that day approaches do not question it, do not dismiss but explore and inquire. It could be a life changing event.Love takes two individuals expressing their feelings, recognizing the positive attributes, and accepting the negative. Love is not a defensive posture,but an accepting one recognizing that your lover and friend has no intentions to hurt you. When that falls apart, trust begins to diminish rapidly. 

It is important to note that when we are young we assume we know what love is, we assume we know what unconditional friendship is. It is only through pain, loss, and recognition we have made bad choices that we recognize we most likely were never in love. At least from the standpoint of true unconditional love. To fall in love, and knowing the reality is a consistent friend, who puts their partner first and each sacrifice their needs for each other is a joy that cannot be written or typed. Joy of falling in love is knowing your daily experiences,and your aging path of life will not be spent alone. Who does not enjoy sharing a movie, a sunset, a deer leaping over a fence or a falling star with one you love. As stated in the movie, " Into the Wild," "Happiness is real when shared." 

When in love, true love one wants to stand on the highest mountain and scream out for all to hear, "look who I met, look who I love, look who I am spending the rest of my life with." It is a time of celebration, a time of being thankful to recognizing your fate, and listening to your inner voice. Enjoy your love, enjoy your friend, and NEVER, NEVER take them for granted. Life is too short, and there is too much to experience every day. When lips touch, hearts race, palms perspire, and eyes meet that is only the beginning. The joy of true love is the daily waking of bed head, the laughter and joy of our quirks, faults and idiosyncratic behaviors. 

If you have met your true love, thank them for their friendship, their consistency and support for being in your life. Life is short, you may not have that chance again. 

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