by Jordan Baker

Created on: January 05, 2010   Last Updated: January 06, 2010

The reason a woman may begin to feel that her relationship is on the rocks is because, more often than not, it probably is. The mistake most women make in this situation is clinging to tightly to their relationship, ultimately pushing there partner away. This is the time to resist the feeling of neediness as a result of losing him. Remind yourself that you are independent, and that your life is defined by you, not him. Adopting this attitude is essential in keeping the relationship in tact.

Even if you don't  fully feel this way about yourself, it is time to start acting like it. The most unattractive gestures a woman can make is one that exudes neediness and dependence. If he is already on the fence about the relationship, it is probably a result of the woman becoming to comfortable, too needy, and collectively too boring for his tastes. The way to reverse this is to become unavailable. This means no more waiting by the phone for reassurance that he will remain in your life. This means making plans and keeping busy, whether that means taking up a hobby, going out with friends, or planning a night by yourself to watch a favorite movie.

Resist the urge to call or text him, and don't immediately jump to answer if he calls either. When he is finally able to reach you, simply tell him you've been crazy busy. He will immediately be wondering what you've been busy with and how he can remain penciled into that busy schedule of yours. Another thing to keep in mind is that you must never allow yourself to attack him if he doesn't call, a man will not respond to punishment or criticism.

However, what a man will respond to is a woman with class and most importantly a life of her own. Unless you set yourself apart by being perceived as valuable, and as a prize, then you will only be seen as a fill in until something better comes along. So in this particular instance in which you feel a relationship may be on the verge of ending, don’t panic just yet, there is still hope. The most important thing to remember is that you are the one who must be pursued. It is never okay for a woman to bend over backwards for a man, and ironically this is often what happens when she feels a man is inching out of her reach. By remaining calm and independent, you will have mended this rift before you know it. Now is the time to reignite the spark of intrigue and mystery that attracted him to you in the first place.

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