by Samantha Farrow

Created on: January 05, 2010

Mr. Big.... I remember one of the very first episodes of Sex and the City I caught. It was the one where Aidan and Big get into a fight out at the cabin. I had never paid much attention to SATC and had no idea who Aidan or Big were, nor did I find Big attractive; he was middle-aged and looked slightly overweight. I didn't know why there was even a contest; Aidan was physically more suiting. However, after I became a huge fan of the show, I fell in love with Big. He was always there for Carrie, even after they broke up. He tended to show up for her birthday, once with a bunch of balloons and champagne in his limo. Big always referred to her as "kid" and when his spoke to her, his tone changed, to a softer, more muted tone.

  I ask what was Big's sin? He wasn't sure he could commit. Why is this an issue? He's human, he's allowed. I am female, and I don't always want to commit, either. I think this is why the divorce rate is so high, people giving into commitment when they're not really sure. And let's face it, Carrie could be extremely neurotic; so he didn't want to introduce her to his mother right away. When Aidan wanted to introduce her to his parents, Carrie wasn't sure she wanted to meet them.

  Are women really looking for "Mr. Big"? If you mean someone who has a bit of class, who doesn't think farting contest should be an Olympic sport, who knows what a woman wants to hear and will tell them only if they mean it, someone who has confidence without being arrogant, someone who's honest with where they're at, then yes, I would say that women are, or at least this woman is. Maybe other men don't want to hear this, and feel threatened by it, but it's true. However, with that, for my part, I nag very little, I am all about both people having freedom to hang out with their friends and do their own activities without there being trust issues, and occasionally, I will hang out, play pool, and drink beer, without saying what pigs men are when they launch into guy speak. Hell, I've even gone to the peeler with my significant other and not made a big deal about it. I believe that if one is going to have expectations, then be expected to live up to expectations.

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