by Vilie Farah

Created on: January 05, 2010

When we come to think about it, no person steps into marriage or a serious relationship with the intention to cheat. Well, a few probably do but other interests are involved in such cases.

Cheating stems from a need. The need can be either physical or emotional but cheating comes to the spotlight whenever a person is missing something. It may substitute for the lack of attention, intimacy or novelty in one’s love life.

Each person has specific needs and the reasons often differ when we talk about men and women. It is commonly accepted that cheating in women is an emotional act, while men need to satisfy the “hunter” inside.

* The need for something fresh *
Relationships evolve over time. The first few months are full of excitement and the thrills of learning more about each other. Intimacy is at its peak and partners never fail to surprise each other.

As this initial thrill settles, a relationship becomes worldlier. Partners know each other well and are rarely surprised. Excitement wears off, often replaced by daily routine and household problems.

Time passes and partners suddenly realize that they miss the initial thrill, the excitement of that first kiss, the passion and tenderness accompanying the initial stages of a relationship. A person missing that novelty might be tempted into cheating. In this case, an affair satisfies the need for excitement and novelty.

* Partners no longer communicate *
As marriage evolves, partners might slowly drift apart. Initially, they enjoyed sharing tiny details about the day at the office, the beautiful new pair of shoes in the store or the wonderful lunch with friends at the restaurant.

Getting to know each other too well may change this communication. Partners understand each other without saying a thing.

Being busy with work or children may also deprive partners of the precious moments they previously used to talk to each other.

Both men and women miss the emotional bond that communication with a partner brings. In a successful marriage or relationship, the partners should be both lovers and friends. When these friends lack the time to talk to each other, they start experiencing emotional hunger.

Someone new can quickly satisfy that hunger. In such instances, an affair often begins in the form of a friendship. This friendship grows and soon feelings might interfere. Before one knows it, the desire for emotional release has turned into an affair.

* Something new, something sexy *
Sex in the initial stages of a relationship

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