by Samantha Farrow

Created on: January 05, 2010

Sex and the City is a liberating series where women can embrace their sexual sides without having to wear the label of "slut" or "whore." Until I became an avid fan of the show, I would classify myself as prudish. The term feminist usually has people thinking of radical feminist; the ones who can do it all by themselves "without a man, thank you very much". If that's the way you feel, kudos to you, but try having a baby without a man. Unless we're lesbian, or bi-sexual, we're all going to have to deal with men, or become like my mother, who hasn't dated since the 80's and now has daily conversations with her cats like they're people, no word of a lie. I think Sex and the City teaches women to take on the world in a more positive, realistic view of feminism; we can be strong, but there's nothing like the support of good friends, and the relationship that define us.

  As for Carrie and her on again, off again relationship with Big, well, I don't see it as her being weak, nor do I see Big the way most women do; they demonize him horribly. I think Big is just unsure, and that's okay, humans are allowed to be unsure. Big is a BIG life lesson for Carrie, and through him, she learns a lot about herself. Why is this a bad thing? Life is not about everything being rosy and perfect; in fact, if it were, we would never learn anything or grow as people. By expecting Carrie to not want Big, or by expecting Big to treat Carrie differently, people are just playing into stereotypes, "Oh, she's a woman, he should just commit and not break her heart." And what's with the by wanting men we're devaluing ourselves stuff? Hello, I am a heterosexual woman in her thirties, what else am I going to want? No, men don't define me, but let's face it, I'd be awfully lonely if all there was was women. Sure, like the SATC women, I love my circle of friends. However, they can't fulfill all of my needs. If having those needs makes me a weak female, then hey, I'll wear that label. But personally, I think in spite of my need, and despite my need, for men, I am a strong woman who embraces my sexual side, thanks to Sex and the City. Amen.

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