by Karen Williams

Created on: January 05, 2010

A woman asked me, "How do I cope with the guilt, disapproval, and yearning that comes after an affair with a boss ends abruptly?"  She also wrestles with the idea of how she attracted this situation.

Anytime we feel emotional pain, Abraham-Hicks tells us it's basically because we're viewing situations in ways that our Inner Being would not view them. Emotions are a direct message from our Inner Being about how we're doing with our habits of thought, and negative emotions tell us that we're continuing to focus in ways that our Inner Being would not do and in ways that will lead us away from, rather than to, our desires. It's all about Law of Attraction and the way it lines up circumstances to match our mental habits. .

So, in this situation, your Inner Being's viewpoint of what happened might be something like:

 -The love of my life has left me, but it was a wonderful connection. If I could manifest such a meaningful connection with one person, I can do it again in the future. This relationship helped me to clarify my desires as to what I want in a future relationship, and that is of immense value. I would want someone with many of the same qualities and traits as my previous loved one. But next time, I want the person to be unattached and totally available for a relationship with me. That would be the perfect situation, and this previous relationship has helped me to understand that. This previous romance has helped me to ask for something more, and now I'll be in a position to experience all that this situation has caused me to ask for. As I gradually move beyond grief and disappointment by finding better feeling thoughts, I'll be setting the stage for a relationship that has all the joys of the previous one but without the inherent problems.

 -I feel guilty because I was the "other woman," and some people look at me with judgment and blame. And yet, many people who would have found themselves with a heartfelt connection such as I felt might have done as I did. Some of them probably have done such things in the past or may do them in the future. So I'm taking everyone else out of the equation, and I'm going to focus on finding thoughts that feel better about my circumstances. I can't please everyone, so I'm going to please myself by giving myself a break. I did nothing with the intention of hurting anyone; this was a relationship of mutual consent that grew from our togetherness

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