by KKaryn

Created on: January 04, 2010   Last Updated: January 05, 2010

When a woman enters into her childbearing years, she is already thinking "do I want to have children," and if so how many and when in my life do I want to have them and then there is the with who. I know men hate it, but women do have the most say in this part of the relationship. It would be nice if the man could help, but let's face it: his part is small. I mean, really; who is the one that has to carry this child for nine months and then deliver it with the pain that it brings and in most cases is the one that deals with the child after it gets here even it the father is a good one and do help, children are always and will be forever mother's babies.

I don't mean to take anything from the fathers, I had a good one and there are some good ones around, but we are talking about our bodies and no one ever talk about the after effect of when we go into menopause and the drop bladders and things. That mindset seems a little selfish but let's face it, this is real.

It two people get together and things even look like they might get close to the conversation of marriage there should be a nice list of subject to bring up like money, cleaning, vacations, likes, dislikes, religion believe and oh yes we don't want to forget children. People don't have these kind of conversations before marriage because they are thinking of how much I love you and you love me and everything will work it's self out and we will live happy all of our days.

The subject might be talked about but not in the way that it should be, for instance how many children and when is a good start and then the what if we (because it is a we, when you are married) get pregnant before we are ready and we have the money for a baby ? This is a very important conversation just like the money and where we will live. However, when two people get married they are not two they are now one and that is why there should be some talk about where or not the wife should have an abortion and then the father should have to sign off on it. It would be like buying a house for the two of you and only one sign off on it or making major changes in your life and the other don't know anything about it until it is done.

The woman has to think of it like this what if you wanted children now and your husband kept putting your birth control pills in your milk or if you didn't want children and he did and he was putting holes in the condom. This just mean he is taking away your right to say when you want or don't want children and this would be the same thing if a woman could have an abortion without her spouse knowing and as women we could put it off. If a couple can't be together on when to have a baby then they wont be together on how to raise it.

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