by Teddy Ward

Created on: January 03, 2010

If you suspect that your spouse is cheating on you the best way to get them to admit to the act is to catch them in the middle of it. The key is patience. Don't jump at them at the first chance you get, take the time to do some research, gather the facts, and make sure you have a very solid set of facts available to you before you confront them.

The reason you want to have all the facts gathered before you confront a spouse about cheating is to eliminate any chance they may have to make up a story or make up excuses that may cause you doubt in what it is you are accusing them of.  Something to think about is that the spouse that is doing the cheating knows they are cheating, has already had time to put together back stories, create excuses, and justify in their minds that what they are doing is okay.  Which means when you are ready to confront them about the cheating you need to be just as prepared as they are or they may have that chance to throw some doubt at you and make you rethink what it is you are accusing them of. 

Don't rely on just hearsay and rumors either as this type of information is hard to back up. Best case scenario is that you can catch them in the act or catch them in a lie.  Find them on a date with the person they are cheating on you with and ask them right there where they can't possibly lie to you. Though this is the best possible way to get them to admit their infidelity it is probably also the hardest scenario to catch them in since they know they are cheating they are not going to make it easy for people to catch them in the act. The next best scenario is to find evidence such as a letter, email, or text message that proves in writing that they are not being faithful.

Bottom line is that if you want a spouse to admit to having cheating then you need to enter the argument well armed with facts and information and ready to defend against any lies and further deceptions they may have to throw at you. If you are ready to prove what it is you are accusing them of then you are sure to be able to get them to admit to what it is they have done or have been doing. 

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