by Anusha Muthiah

Created on: January 02, 2010

It is ironic that I have chosen to write this article right after having a humongous(at my age, I tend to exaggerate everything!) tiff with my mother. It started off with the complain that I come home late. I do not want to rant, but merely explain my situation and point out the unnecessary complain. I am home for the Christmas break and went out with friends and left them early so I could be home by midnight. This might seem reasonable to all of you but to a complaining mother, this is the height of trouble.

Mothers are very important women in our lives. They are the sole reason for our birth and we ought to be grateful. However, what we do not realise is that one shares the closest bond with their mother and she is the only one who will never hesitate to point out your faults. All just so that she can watch you grow up to be a better person.

A classic example: I have very dark complexion and I had this bizarre obsession with dark shades of clothing like black or navy blue. This crazy fascination stuck with me for most part of my teenage life and my mother never got the end of complaining about it. After her 5 years of lamenting, it only struck me how hideous I looked when I saw a picture of my cousin's party on facebook. I was not even able to find myself in the dim lighting of the photograph thanks to the dark brown dress I was wearing which blended into my skin. I could not help but smile when I realised that there was no point in my mother grumbling so much. I refused to do anything about it until I realised it myself.

Some points for you to ponder about:

1. If she keeps repeating it, stop and think about it for a moment.

If what you are doing is driving her crazy, then stop to reflect on what might be the problem. Maybe there is something you can change a bit just to pacify her. If you are a lady working a night-shift job and your mother is not satisfied then maybe it is time you thought about your safety and anything else that is annoying her.

2. Put yourself in her shoes, and maybe you would understand her situation better.

Every mother wants the best for her child. Nobody would complain just because it is an enjoyable thing to do. If you are dating someone who is unemployed and has been living off you for two years and your mother is concerned, wouldn't you feel the same for your child?

3. If she gets on your nerve, control yourself.

No mother enjoys being yelled at just like how no child enjoys a complaining mother. If she is constantly complaining about one thing or the other, you should explain to her how much it is bothering you. Maybe if you try to do something about her complaints once or twice and point it out to her she might feel satisfied and let you off the hook for a while.

However, one should also throw light on the fact that some mothers just never stop!

They truly must complain their way through life about absolutely everything and no matter how hard one tries, nothing can be done about it. My best advice would be to try to keep these mothers occupied so that they are too busy to notice or complain. If one cant get rid of it, put it to rest I say.

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