by Leigh Goessl

Created on: January 01, 2010   Last Updated: January 02, 2010

Trust is one of the foundational pieces in a relationship. When trust is shattered this is devastating to the partner who has been cheated on or lied to.

As a loved one comes to face the reality of betrayal they may feel as if the relationship is a big sinkhole with no concrete substance to hold up all they thought was real. After all a huge piece of the very foundation they've always relied upon is now gone.

Traveling the road to regained trust is often a long and rocky journey. If you are truly remorseful and want to regain trust and repair your relationship, you are going to have to make several changes in your lifestyle to prove to your loved one you are serious about fixing the damage you've caused.

Here are a few considerations you can look to take as you attempt to rebuild and repair your relationship after cheating on or lying to a loved one:

*Provide Complete Transparency
Giving your mate total transparency is essential to the healing process and regaining a loved one's trust.

Transparency includes sharing passwords to cell phone(s), e-mail accounts, social networking sites and any other way you've connected with the other person or lied to your mate about. If you have secret accounts or pay as you go cell phones, give them up to your loved one. Do not simply delete and/or hide these things even if you never plan to use them again.

One of the primary reasons it is important to fess up to everything is eventually it is possible something, somewhere will resurface and you will lose any ground you've gained in the trust area. Also by confessing to things your loved one has not yet learned will help facilitate the trust-building process because you are sharing information on your own accord.

After lying or cheating there is a good chance your mate is going to have a lot of difficulty believing most anything you say. They may even experience flashbacks or elevated fear about what you are doing when you are away from them, but offering full transparency proves to your loved one you are being honest.

*Complete Honesty

Total honesty is important to regain trust from either an affair or other kind of lies you've told your mate. Do not even lie about small, stupid things. Complete disclosure is important in the trust building department.

Even if you lie about mundane or trite things (such as what you ate for lunch or where you got gas for the car) this can be detrimental to your loved one. If you get caught lying about small things, this often sets the wheels

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