by Chris Tilley

Created on: January 01, 2010

Some days it seems the feminist movement was only just provocation for equal employment and fearless one night stand beginnings to a relationship. Yet, the fire typically burns out and that handsome charming man turned out to be just another benevolent sexist looking for a fairytale princess rather than a woman. And the glass ceiling still keeps a woman more available to the matrimonial vertical thrust rather than true upward mobility for economic security.

I think the world of relationships needs a radical revolution. Riot girls need to grow up and become riot women. There is nothing wrong with atypical becoming standard and true egalitarian relationships beginning with the woman and ending in love. Everyone wants love. Why shouldn’t it begin by the beauty that delivers us all into the world with a little less power but the same divine integrity?

I am sure it happens from time to time. Rare women braving the dating scene and hating little boy hopeless and big daddy player with equal disdain as some of us men. Men who always have to work through the impact of their behaviors in disarming the intuitive speculations of our girlfriends before ever the real woman reveals her vulnerable side.  Those brave women initiating the development of more than the love but even the first spark of the romance and leading it all the way to the chapel. Believe it or not, more than a handful of men enjoy the confident refreshing spark of an independent, liberated woman.

But there is so much to concern with in being so advanced an individual, you might be thinking. Or maybe your response to this is it seriously is better the traditional way. I don’t know. Divorce rate is at 50% and rising. Marital dissatisfaction is being linked to depression and America’s number one killer, heart disease. Presented with the big picture, I would hope women would think ‘what could it hurt.’ And seriously, it really couldn’t hurt to try.

The world of men out there would just throw stones at men like me. Label us lazy, and too radical. The daughters of America deserve their romance and their traditional beliefs about dating and relationships to be fulfilled by a man. And they’re right about that. Women due deserve romance and happiness. But I think daughters should be women and step up to the plate a little less, and actual start pitching more than the seventh inning stretch. Even be so bold as to throw the first punch.

I am not saying be reckless and endanger your lives. Definitely don’t be foolish and go too fast being furiously brave. But live a little. See someone. Say something. Get a number. And ask for a date. Meet them there. Get to know them. Once you do. And you know deep in your heart of hearts that the handsome accepting gentleman is not a real good con artist but a genuine individual of mutual attraction and defining caliber. Take him home. You might just hear him say, “I was hoping you would ask.” Once back at your place, you can let the traditional man take the lead if you want. It probably would even help him be a better beast for your beauty and rights to sexual fulfillment. Or you could just make the night and relationship a grand slam and ride straight out the gates liberated and loving it. That is how you find Mr. Right.

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