by Angels Web

Created on: December 26, 2009   Last Updated: October 29, 2010

As we become more aware of our possibilities, some people in society will take advantage and become more selfish. Selfishness is a self inflicted wound! Once we have learned the difference, it becomes a choice that we choose to make! The person who has taught this trait pays as high of price as the person who has learned it. People are not born selfish; they are given the right to be such by the people around them. We cannot give our children everything they want or desire without a price being paid. When the word “No” is never used, people tend to become self centered and selfish. Tough love is saying "No”, out of meanness, but out of love. We need our children to learn compassion and to care for more than themselves.

If we do not teach our children how to care for others; they will never be able to love themselves. Their idea of being nice will be to suck up to someone until they are given everything that they think they deserve. We cannot bring a child up to think that every time their hand is out that we are going to fill it. The love gets lost by their need for possessions and their right to possess. When we create a need for need, we are essentially destroying the person! It is misguided to believe that it is an expression of love to give children everything that their little hearts desire. People become selfish, dependent and learn to express love through “Things”. Love should come from the heart! Love is something that should be expressed by the giving of ourselves and not by the gifts we buy. It is great to give gifts and make people happy. It cannot replace the act of giving of love from the heart!

There may come a time when you might need help from your kids. Instead of receiving help; they will have their hands out for money. We may be laying there dying of cancer, and they will be in denial. We are fine in their eyes, and they are stressed by watching us and need to take a weekend vacation. Of course we are the one paying for this. We need them to stay and help us; they are off and having fun. “What goes around comes around”, now it is our turn to pay the price for creating such selfish monsters. The problem is that they are in their thirties, and the problem is almost irreversible.

Now our time is up, and the cancer has invaded our body. We need help, and are about to die. Are our kids there for us? In most cases the answer will be "Absolutely not"! They are in denial and are more upset their “Mom”

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