by Sharmal Kelambi

Created on: December 24, 2009   Last Updated: December 26, 2009

It’s the Sunday morning and you’re at home and at ease of your sofa. But your mind is in a mess of problems. Last night your boyfriend asked whether you’re ready to move in with him. The night was splendid enough, how can you refuse such an invitation? You know it’s a huge decision but you are so eager to start packing things up for the move in already. But while at the comfort of your own sofa, there are few things you need to find answers first.

The things that come at once to your mind are money, cooking, laundry and paying bills by the end of the month and all sorts of other things; and how wonderful it to be with him all the time? But before you make that ultimate decision you better find answers to three simple questions. Too simple they may seem, yet it’s simply too hard find answers to any of them.

What is the purpose of your move in?

Whether you know him/her enough?

Whether you trust your own self to bear the burdens of a committed relationship?

1) WHAT IS THE PURPOSE OF YOUR MOVE IN?

People move in for various reasons from just romantic getaway in life to becoming more successful in financial matters. No matter what made you to think of a move in, it’s best to revise through your relationship and to look into the future is there in store for you.

How long have you had your relationship? If you just met him/her about a month ago and are already thinking about a marriage, then it’s guaranteed that your marriage won’t last for much long. Relationships are like tender plants and they need their own sweet time to grow. If you take the wheel of time into your own hands and try to make things happen too quickly at times, you may find yourself regretting your haste sooner or later.

You may only think of your love and how wonderful it would be to sleep in his arms each night. But life is far too complicated than that and simple pleasures die out sooner than you imagine when you sleep on the same bed. Then comes the matters of real life like you lack money to pay your bills or one partner loses the job or is too sick to work for a period of time. If the whole purpose of your move in was to spend a romantic life, then such a matter will shatter your dreams and it melts down your relationship with it.

2) WHETHER YOU KNOW HIM/HER ENOUGH?

Getting to know each other takes time and effort and even after years of relationship, one may still find things they don’t know about the other. Things are worse if there

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