by Kathleen Lynn

Created on: December 23, 2009   Last Updated: December 24, 2009

When two people decide to take the relationship to the next level they are making a commitment to that other person.  Moving in together is one of those big steps in the course of a relationship, for some it happens during the engagement process and for others it happens after they wed.  However, in both cases it still presents new challenges.

One of the first things that become apparent when a couple chooses to move in together for the first time is the living habits and styles.  You may prefer the kitchen cleaned up every night after the dinner meal while your partner is content to let the dishes pile up.  You may be inclined to step out of your shoes in a living room where your partner prefers them neatly put away when they are taken off.  How full to let a trash can get, how full to let an ash tray get, coasters for your drinks?   These are all questions that can present small challenges to a relationship.  If you are the neat partner you may begin to resent the lack of effort from your partner in keeping the home tidy.  There may be days you get exhausted just looking at the pile of dirty laundry on their side of the bed.  There will need to be compromises made and an even division of the household chores to maintain peace of mind and harmony in the relationship.  These are things you do not notice about the other person until you are living with them daily.

Another thing that can become an issue is the bathroom.  Where is the bathroom located that is most often used?  Do you prefer to spray an air freshener every time you use the room?  Will your partner show that same courtesy?  Are you embarrassed about using a restroom with your partner nearby?  These seem inconsequential when you are dating, but they can be important issues in daily life.  Fortunately we live in a time when things have evolved past a spray can, if your partner is a bit less inclined to spray after using the room, why not change your habits and instead find a plug in freshener or a timed spray freshener?  In addition, you can decorate with pretty glass and vases filled with potpourri. 

Bathroom times are another thing that you may have to make a compromise on.  Perhaps, the hair brush and dryer will work better on your dresser so that your partner can make time to do his morning grooming as well.  Space out when you will be using the hot water so that you are considerate of your

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