by Lolito Tampus

Created on: December 19, 2009   Last Updated: April 19, 2010

One of the most difficult realities to happen in a relationship is when one spouse is cheating.  It is a very delicate matter to deal with,  since to discover a hidden  mistake involves  puzzles  that are spiced up  with pride, selfishness and  egoism. The lack of communications and  prevalence of  secrecy which accompanies the use of personal belongings like cellphones, laptops and diaries  are the primary reasons or options  which in the long  run  can either retain or lose love and respect. Consequently in this dramatic love story,  the victim is the last person to know after the good times when the culprit savored  illegal enjoyment and thrilling escapades.

The most painstaking endeavour is to catch a cheater.  It becomes tedious and complicated when the violator is the best actor and the lover is the best supporting ally.  It is commonly consummated if the victim   is very busy, overconfident and unmindful of what's going on in the habitat which is left behind in favor of other itineraries for the welfare of the  family.  Everything seems normal and customary all day long and night as perceived by the unsuspecting  partner who embraces complete trust and loyalty.  Nevertheless,  problems would naturally appear whether expected or unexpected.  The worst scenario is when both spouses play with fire.

In most cases,  the victim has the big say to determine the future of the relationship which awaits for the decision to either severe or preserve it. There is the greater share of the aggrieved party  to present plans and solutions and to forget and forgive.  In this instance, many would say that  there is a need to consider and respect the sacrament of marriage and the sanctity of being together.  But sad to say,  we can learn from various reports and  experiences that being together again is remote because of so much pain, shame  and anger.  

Honesty should be the dependable ingredient in any relationship.  Any spouse has the courage to reveal and share inappropriate circumstances and to readily ask for forgiveness after admissions. This happens when the abode is free and communications are open and transparent. The gut level is peak and the element of understanding reigns.  Quarrels and domestic troubles

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