by Maria Papadopoulou

Created on: December 18, 2009   Last Updated: December 19, 2009

When it is a choice, aloneness has the potential of transforming your life for the better. This article will attempt to demonstrate the ways in which  that can be accomplished.

How to master the art of aloneness and transform your life

1. Open the door

When being alone, it is essential to find the courage to open the door to the deepest feelings and thoughts of yours. Allowing yourself to get in touch with its best hidden parts is the first step in understanding yourself better. Learn to listen to  all those little voices in your head, allow your mind to wander everywhere, without trying to interfere in the meantime. While you might get shocked initially, this is the best way to understand yourself in depth.

2.Come to terms with what you discover

As the journey progresses you will discover many things about yourself and your needs and desires, things that you never even thought they existed or things whose existence you were aware of, but you spent years trying to deny them. When that happens, it is absolutely necessary to come to terms with all of them. If you discover that your romantic relationship has essentially ended in every way it counts, that you can no longer communicate effectively with your friends or that your job is not satisfying anymore, what you need to do is not bury your head in the sand, but accept the situation as it is. Only if you accept reality as it really is, will you be able  to make steps into the right direction.

3.Spend some time with yourself

Many people consider it pitiful when they see someone eating by himself in a restaurant,  or drinking coffee while reading his favorite book at a coffee house. In actuality though, it is wonderful to be able to spend some time with you and enjoy your own company. In order to be able to enjoy the company of others, it is necessary to be able to enjoy your own company first, otherwise what you do is asking from others to fill your voids. Only you though can fill your own voids. If you  constantly need others to be by your side, it means that for some reason you cannot stand your own company. And if that is true, what you should do is figure out why. Spending time with yourself will give you a chance to realize what it is exactly that you don't like about yourself but also what you do like about yourself.

4. Be creative

While spending time with yourself, it is possible to discover that you were actually hiding a lot of creativity in you. Maybe you realize that you always

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