by Mrs. Hathoway

Created on: December 15, 2009   Last Updated: December 16, 2009

So Son, she is your half sister, they are your half brothers, and she is your sister by divorced marriage. And by the way, he is your cousin, my nephew, and yes, I'm younger than him, and even though she is your second cousin you can call her "Auntie."

When you were little you never thought too much how the people you see are related to each other. You just think to yourself what are they going to get me for Christmas. The only people who are really defined as family is the people that live in the same household with you. Nowadays, the structure of the family household is different.. You might live with your in laws, you have kids from a divorce or you might have a friend living with you that has no relation at all but they are still family. But how do explain all of this to your little ones and how do you explain your life to others? I still - to this day - have trouble. But it was the day I accepted all this make it easier to explain what is going on.

I will keep it short and sweet because the explaining of who's who is the most important part, but in a nutshell it goes like this. We met and no one comes with a warning label or 'do not date past casual' written on a label. If everyone did, then the dating world would be so simple. He was charming and sweet and his demeanor said 'works well with kids and a family provider.' We dated and I remember the first time he mentioned his kids I was in to him I kept thinking in the back of my head, how will explain this to my mom, and how will I accept this? It didn't matter, I knew he was the one; he knew, too, and wasn't afraid to admit it.   Yeah, we both worried and knew way a head of time that it was going to be difficult living this dream but we made a promise that we were going to find a way.

His biggest thing was me meeting his kids and his kids come from a far away past that he has accepted from being a young innocent guy that didn't know no better. I will tell you; he is the point 9 in the warning labels on condoms that show how efficient they are. Well, this was the explanation of the first child; she was already 15 and I was only 26, ten years older than her and he was ten years older than me, (new age dating, I tell you, it doesn't come with a guide book.) She was sweet and he already told me that if we didn't get along then it wasn't going to work, in the most nicest way he can say it. Basically, I learned what he meant by that; she was the baby girl, the only girl that will never go away, girls can

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