by Ganelle Davis

Created on: December 14, 2009   Last Updated: December 19, 2009

These people who belittle other people are only belittling themselves, of course they don't want the light shone upon their unscrupulous behaviors or attitude. Hazing other people with tactics and comments to keep attention from themselves.  Small minds, produce small actions.

What do you expect from these people? I suggest, you try to ignore their ramblings and pray for them. "Wait a minute", I'm sure your'e saying now.  Yes because their ignorance is showing , each time they cast dispersions on other people.  Who do they think they are? I would say someone with nothing better to do, but find someone a lot more interesting than they are.  Sadly, to say, that person just might be you.

In most situations, the people that speak of you and talk about you the most are the same people that secretly admire you. Go figure that one out. Don't worry; they will not be able to attack your character. Your character is what you are, even when no one is looking at you. You know who you are and God knows your character. People can and will see what they want to see. Usually these people, are of ill reputation.

Enduring these harsh comments, designed to illuminate your character in a bad light.. You can endure by ignoring the rude  comments, changing the subject or just walking away from them in the middle of their sentence. Don't forget to show them, you were raised with manners, by saying ,"excuse me", as you walk away from them.

This is a tactic, I used while in  school. One of the "popular" girls approached me and asked me, "Where did you get that sweater"?  Before,I could respond, she turned to her group of friends, the peanut gallery and snickered with this very rude comment, " I didn't think they make those, to fit fat girls."   I held my decorum and said "Thank you, it was a gift.  I'm blessed, I could never afford something this expensive." Her face turned a lovely shade of jade.That is green with envy.  She never approached me with a comment such as that again. By the way , in a sea of size 3s, I wore a size 12 and wore it well.. 

Managing to side step those side ways compliments became my expertise during my school years.  It took loads of confidence and steady prayer to defend myself from these small minded people. What were they afraid of?  I began to think picking on others, stroked their own ego's in some way. It was obvious, they had some type of deficiency.

This is my favorite scripture today, when ever I have to deal with small minded people and their trivial small actions.  "Let endurance have it's full effect, so that you may be mature and complete, lacking nothing." this is found in the Bible in the book of James1:4.  There is always a way to deal with these situations, within the confines of your strong moral character.

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