by Amanda Bruce

Created on: December 08, 2009   Last Updated: December 09, 2009

Before you decide you want to regain the trust in your relationship, you should ask yourself why you cheated. In retrospect, there is no way you are ever going to be fully trusted again. Your wife or husband is always going to wonder, "is he/she really at work?" You made your bed and you have to sleep in it. If you want forgiveness and the relationship to continue you have to take consequences. There are little things that might make life easier.

Tell your loved one exactly what your doing and when. It will give them some peace of mind that you're taking the time to be considerate enough to tell them your plans. It will prove that you know there is doubt and you want to tell them exactly where you are.

Call several times throughout the day, to check in, so to speak. If your taking the time to call your probably not going to have a lot of time to go somewhere to cheat.

Never stop telling them how much to love them and how lucky you are to be with them. First off, its true. If you cheated and they didn't kick you to the curb your lucky, and if you stuck around you must love them enough to wanna tell them.

Don't ever make excuses for what you did. How many times have you tried, "I didn't feel loved," or "you drove me to it." There is never an excuse for doing what you've done. You can be married to the biggest grump in history and it still wouldn't be an excuse. If your not happy, talk or leave; don't cheat. No excuse is going to help; it's just going to make you look dumb.

 Be sincere. Be honest with yourself. Are you in love with that person, or do you just not want to see them with someone else? Don't be selfish. Give them a chance to be happy, too. If you're not that sorry and you just don't want to be alone or that person to leave you, do them a favor and let them go. If that's your reason, for sticking around, don't.

 If you've committed to someone and you go astray, the first thing they will think is, "why wasn't I good enough?" Don't do that to someone. No one can put you at fault because your feelings change, but when you become a liar and a cheater trust is hard to earn back, if it's possible at all.

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