by Candy Jules

Created on: December 07, 2009

Truth is truth in life and in death. But tact is an absolute necessity in giving a eulogy or a reflection of the deceased person's life. Every person who knew us, knows exactly how we were and what we stood for.

I remember times in life when people would be talking about someone who had passed. This person's lifestyle left a lot to be desired. But the family was adamant about the world not knowing the shortcomings of their loved one. Sweep it under the rug for the time being, but the truth will come out eventually. People love to talk, and with the deceased gone, there's no way for him/her to deny it.

Everybody has skeletons in their closets. They may deny it, but it's true. We're not perfect. No not one. Some things are nobody else's business and should be laid to rest with the departed one. Let it go. Families are hurting bad enough without onlookers bringing judgment

Personally, I would like to be remembered as someone who loved. I loved life. I loved my family, I loved good values and morals because I love the Lord Jesus Christ. I've made my share of mistakes, but I have done a lot of good through my years to. I took care of the elderly and the sick, and I did it with respect and love. I treated others as I wanted to be treated.

I raised my children to know right from wrong, to know God as their Heavenly Father, and to live by the golden rule. Now, they are responsible for the way they will be remembered in death.

A person will be remembered in death as the way they lived in life. If you were a giver, you will be remembered as a giver. If you were a taker, that is the way you will be remembered.

A lot of people are put on the spot when ask to do a eulogy on someone who has passed. They want to be truthful, but that would mean lying about the person. If you knew in your heart that this person had done something wrong, how could you tell the family and friends how great a person he/she was? Most of them already know the truth anyway. It's the family that always gets hurt, and it's sad. It's hard enough to lose a loved one without finding out things that you're not ready to deal with.

Some eulogies are wonderful. A person was so loved, that people couldn't say enough kind things to truly show how great this person was. This is the way I would like to be remembered. Living my life helping others, so that it would not be lived in vain.

Just remember; the way the world sees you living your life is the way they will see you in death. Go to your final resting place with honor and love, and above all, no regrets.

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