by beth king

Created on: December 06, 2009

The good news is you have a new, great boyfriend and the bad news, his birthday is coming up and you don't know what to get. This is such an awkward time, on the one hand you want to get him something yet on the other you don't want to appear that you are more serious than he is.

This very tricky, deciding what to buy. You have to draw the line between getting something you would for a long term serious relationship and something that is more thoughtful then a casual friend. So, what are some good ideas for gifts that will say, yes you like and are interested in him, but you aren't considering the relationship more then it is?

First, think about how long you've been going to together and how often you see each other. If this is still new and you've only gone out a few times, consider something neutral like cologne. Most men wear it and it's also one of those gifts that would be appropriate for a casual friend or boyfriend. You are not making a huge statement with this gift.

If you don't want to spend that much money or you're on a tighter budget, think of music or a book. Maybe he's mentioned a band or artist that he's fond of and they have a new CD out or he's interested in a particular topic, purchase a book about the topic.

Is her a sports fanatic or has a favorite team? Get him a jersey or hat with the team name or logo.

If the relationship is new but you've gone out often, talk on the phone often and if he's taken you out to nice places on your dates, you may want to consider spending a little more on the gift but still keep it somewhat neutral. Think about what he does and gifts that would fit in with his work, for example, does he travel, maybe a nice carryon bag or portfolio for work.

Think about taking him out to dinner or lunch for his birthday. This can be something that is appropriate for a new romance or one that has had time to really develop. If the relationship is new, dinner and a card is fine, but dinner and a gift may be too much.

If your relationship is new but has really taken off and seems like it's on the verge of being serious something a bit more personable may be called for. Think about cooking dinner for him and giving a gift that is more personable such as a watch or clothing. That will let him know that you are interested in him more then something casual. If your relationship has really taken off and you give something more neutral then you could also send the wrong message, that you aren't as in to him as he is in to you.

So much of what to get is really depending on the time you've known each other, how often you go out and communicate and where you want the relationship to go. If you're still not sure, shop around and ask the sales person, preferably male, at the store for the suggestions and opinions.

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