by Anthony Piccirillo

Created on: December 04, 2009

It is a stretch to say that the nice guy never gets the girl but the nice guy gets burnt more often than not. Most guys forget that women are very different from men and, because of this, it is more complicated than just being nice. Women do want a guy to be nice and courteous but they do not want a guy to seem desperate. It is common knowledge to make the assumption that woman always want what they can't have. This is true to an extent. It's not so much that they want what they can't have; it's more that they want a guy with depth.

Often, when a guy is super nice they lay it all out on the table and leave nothing to mystery. The guy seems like he will do anything to have the girl and she very quickly views him as desperate. This is where the problem originates. The key is not to make the woman think you are mean, it is more to leave some element of mystery. Always leave her thinking that there is more to you than meets the eye.

Men, in general, are blunt and decisive creatures, where woman can be the exact opposite. Always try to ask a girl more questions than she has asked you. This leaves her to believe that she missed something and she still needs to get to know you, therefore, she needs to speak to you and/or see you again. It is very easy for women to meet men, not necessarily men they want to meet, but nevertheless men. If a guy is just that nice guy it doesn't leave her curious for more.

From my personal experience, remembering the woman that I have been most successful with, I have taken my time in letting them really get to know me. I have always left an element of mystery. Other times I have faltered, like the rest of us, and laid it all out on the table right away. This has never worked for me. The reality is, the nice guy never gets the girl because he forgets that it is a game. In the world we live, it is a game; it has always been a game and will always be a game. Stay true to yourself, honest and kind but do not forget to be tactical. Don't ever let a girl know that you may be intimidated by her, be nice but don't let your guard down and be too nice.

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