by Vilie Farah

Created on: December 02, 2009   Last Updated: February 15, 2010

Being shy makes communication much more difficult than it is for an extroverted person. You think twice before introducing yourself to someone, the process seems embarrassing and painful. The situation becomes even tenser when dating attempts are involved.

You are single and shy. Finding a partner appears to be mission impossible. You can try several strategies to overcome your shyness or use alternative dating methods that will help you deal with the nervousness of spontaneous face-to-face communication.

* Confidence *
Being shy often implies lacking self confidence. Shy people prefer standing by as observers instead of actively getting involved and fighting to fulfill their desires.

Work on your confidence. You are probably smarter, prettier, nicer or funnier than the average person. Find the one quality that makes you unique and turn that quality into your hidden weapon.

Develop all abilities you have. Evolving in a specific sphere will bring you confidence. A rule of thumb is that confident people are attractive. You do not have to say an awful lot in order to make an impression. Just be good at what you are doing and project peacefulness and self-respect.

* Psychology *
It is very important to comprehend that we are all human beings. The hot person you have a crush on is probably as anxious as you are about meeting new people. Humans instinctively search for approval and understanding.

We all have the same fears. The fear of rejection is something all experience, the one thing that varies is the strength of this sentiment.

Other people are no better than you. They are simply people. Understand that and stop acting as if you are trying to approach a god or goddess.

* Develop your communication skills *
The only way to overcome fear is to face it. Shy people usually fear communication. To deal with the problem you simply have to, well, communicate.

Practice. Exercising your communication skills is the only way to deal with the issue. It certainly is unpleasant and probably scary. Yet, staying home by yourself will get you to dislike communicating with others furthermore.

Start exercising. Simply approach strangers that look friendly and nice. Ask someone for opinion after going to a concert or to see a movie. Discuss the weather with a nice old lady you see in the park. Open up to others and they will notice the difference in you.

Casual conversations with strangers will get you ready for your dream date. Talk to people, discover ways to make them answer back. People are usually impressed by simple acts of kindness and interest. A date is no different.

* Study the dating process *
To be successful at dating and communication you need to have basic understanding of human psychology.

Asking someone out is a difficult task. Do your homework in advance in order to diminish chances of rejection. Try to find out what the person likes, what their interests are. Being polite and kind is better than trying to act cool and funny.

Sometimes, intimacy starts off as friendship. If you are worried about directly suggesting a date, try to become friends with the person first. This will give you a chance to know them better before moving on to the next step.

Keep in mind that a failure is not the end of the world. Many people out there are looking for a partner. If you fail getting that dream date keep in mind that something better is just waiting around the corner. Be optimistic and serene. Love will soon come by your way.

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