by Patricia Watson

Created on: November 26, 2009

When words are used as weapons, they are just as efficient as a fist or a gun. Hurtful words can destroy a person, without leaving a blood trail. We need to be very careful with our choice of words. Verbal attacks can leave a victim crying out in pain, with no visible evidence of injury. When you are attacked by someone with a vicious tongue, it can make your feel like you are dying inside. To the outside world, it may look like no harm has been done. Inside the mind and soul of the verbal abuse victim, are the scars and fresh wounds of battle.

Sticks and stones may break bones, but words can take away your self-esteem, confidence and change you into a bitter person. My husband looked at me one day, and simply stated, "You are fat, and have let yourself go to ruin." Looking back, I believe that was his form of pep talk, to help me lose weight. Those harsh and hurtful words still ring in my ears today. One sentence, spoken in haste, has shaped how I feel about my body, years later. Words spoken with the right intent can still hurt a person.

Think before you speak. Ask yourself the question; is this how I would like to be spoken too? If your answer is no, then don't say what is on your mind. Freedom of speech does not mean freedom to hurt. Too often, people hide behind their right to say what they want, just to inflict pain on someone else. There are people who feel power, through their ability to make others cry. Spouses don't have to hit each other with their hands, to cause abuse in the home. Verbal abuse is an insidious evil, that is hard to detect, and even harder to stop.

Words spoken in anger to your child can do more damage than you will ever know. Verbal discipline must always be balanced with love and caring. When your child brings home a failing grade on their report card, never tell them they are stupid. They may believe your harsh assessment of their learning capabilities. The stigma of feeling they are unable to learn, can follow them well into their adult years. If you feel your child has not done their best work, offer to help them improve their grades. Let your words be encouraging and helpful. Words spoken to children should always be chosen with care.

Words have a mighty power. They can shape nations and deliver powerful inspiration. We each have this mighty power and use it everyday. Always remember to guard your words and use them only for good.

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