by Joshua K. Bradshaw

Created on: November 25, 2009

I appreciate variety

More than one best friend? Why not? While many people have just one 'best friend' I personally have several. I thoroughly enjoy the variety of different personalities and diverse interests of my friends. It's like choosing your favorite food. How can I choose a favorite between lasagna, pork chops, baby back ribs, seared steak or salmon? I love all of them. They all have different flavors and textures. You may in the mood for one today and the other tomorrow. In a similar vein, my friends are from a variety of ages as well as racial and cultural backgrounds. Each of them brings something unique to the table (pun intended). Depending on my mood I'll chill with one on Monday and another on Tuesday.

The more the merrier

In my opinion, It'd be more realistic to say most people have several close friends rather than just one best friend. In weddings the bride has the top bride's maid and the groom has his best man, but there's usually some of their other friends in the wedding. Were I to marry I don't see how I could have one 'best man' as I have several friends who fit that description and it wouldn't be honest on my part (honest with myself) to pick just one. To be fair, some people really do have a brother, sister, or friend who's always been there for them and is their closest confidant.

We change and so do our friendships

It was different in the past when I would become attached to different people and think of them as my best friend. Then I learned to be more proactive about making friends with everyone and trying to be an extrovert as opposed to an introvert. I used to be very introverted and had only a few friends. Nowadays I've learned that I can have many friends. Some of my friendships are closer than others. Some friends of mine are more like acquaintances as they have some annoying personality traits (as does everyone, including myself). Some of my friends I've had to break off, some of them moved away and we lost contact,and some are deceased. Some people you will have a lifetime friendship with while others you will not for the reasons I just stated. My view is that saying you have just one best friend is limiting yourself and the potential joy you could experience with multiple close friendships.

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