by Sunehra

Created on: November 25, 2009   Last Updated: November 27, 2009

Appreciation is never done: but earned. When two people get married they must keep in mind that they are marrying a human being not an angel and a human being is composed of good and bad qualities.

In spite of a spouse's bad qualities we should nevertheless ignore his/her good qualities and emphasize more on it. We can earn our spouses' appreciation very easily if we give him/her utmost concentration to find out his/her likes and dislikes. For example we can easily earn our spouses' appreciation and love if we keep account of his/her work schedules, all the stress they are facing at work and with dealing with own family, friends and in-laws and help them reduce all these burden through standing by them and constant counseling.

The easiest way a spouse can penetrate the heart of his/her spouse is treating the in-law family like his/her own family and doing all the things from the perspective of a good daughter or son rather than daughter-in-law or son-in-law. Nursing the parents-in-law when they are ill, giving them money in times of financial needs, paying for the sister or brother-in-laws' tuition fees are all the ways to earn spouses' appreciation and also be appreciative of him or her.

People can also give their spouses surprises like arranging a birthday party in the garden or fancy restaurant when he/she least expected it with a wonderful gift. It does not have to be extraordinarily expensive like a diamond ornament or designer clothes, shoes and bags for the wives and designer suits, cuff lings and watches for the husbands but can be just a bouquet of your spouses' favorite flowers decorated in a wreath. Flowers are a symbol of love and this clearly shows how much your spouse actually means to you. The greatest gift a woman can give to herself and her husband is a beautiful and healthy child. The husband and wife should both take turns in taking care of the child once it comes into the world.

In South East Asian scenario we see that the mother is taking excessive stress in raring the child, feeding it, waking up in the middle of the night to take care of it when it cries. This should not be so. The life partners should both take turns in taking care of the child because they are each others' better halves. Helping the wife with cooking and other household works is another extraordinary way to show how much a man loves his wife and is never non-masculine.

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