by Adrian Hall

Created on: November 24, 2009   Last Updated: November 25, 2009

And the winner is...the bad guy. Often times, women want a bad guy with good qualities, but that is why he is a bad guy, because he has bad qualities or habits. I have heard so many women say that a guy can be too nice, and they end up dumping him for the rude and obnoxious dude who has secret lovers in every town. I am always labeled the good guy because I treat women with respect and honor.

I have been in two relationship in the past year, and have treated both women with respect and dignity and have crossed the finish line last on both occasions. I am starting to wonder if it's me, or the women with the problem. I always have had great communication with my partner and satisfying intimacy with them also. But when I would run across them later in life, they would be with the loud mouth guy, who treats them like dirt and has reputation for being a womanizer.

Being nice means having positive communication, respecting your partner, showing her you care, and being honest with her. Maybe their definition of nice is totally opposite of ours, and that is why we may come in last sometimes. I have a cousin who it seems like he has a woman for everyday of the week. He lies to them, cheat on them, and disrespect them, but he can't get rid of them. He once told me that you can't be nice to women.

At one point in my life, I started to believe that you can't be nice to women, but i was raised as a child to respect women and treat them like queens. I know a number of guys who get dogged out by women , but they keep believing that there are still some good women out there.

Sometimes coming in last can be a good thing. You have to think positive in a negative situation. If you come in last, that means the guy that came in first will get the prize, another bad relationship. Usually the first place winner end up coming in last later on down the line. Like they say, life is a marathon, not a sprint.

So I say to all the nice guys out there, keep running the race. Eventually all of the bad guys will get tired and eliminate themselves. The Bible verse in Matthew 20:16 , states that "So the last will be first,and the first will be last." AMEN.

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