by Corrie Bryant

Created on: November 24, 2009   Last Updated: November 25, 2009

In the beginning of most relationships, everything is wonderful. The guy or girl you have met seems to be just perfect, almost as if your living a dream. And of course in most cases things turn out much different. We all begin to find that somethings are just too good to be true. The new wears off and the truth comes out, we start to see the real people we are.

As time goes by, we begin to become very comfortable with someone and we start to take them for granted. Keep in mind that this is a two way street, they may start to take you for granted as well. From my own experience, I have learned that some of the things women do for their significant others out of love may turn into a routine or something expected, for instance, doing his laundry or cooking him dinner. In our society we have labeled these things a woman's duty, as well as things a man does such as mow the lawn and take out the trash. We just assume that is that persons responsibility and don't think twice about it.

Here are a few solutions you may want to try.

1. Get back to your roots- Don't you remember as a child your Mother and Father teaching you to say please and thank you? Keep that in mind. Anytime your significant other does even something simple for you be sure to say please if your asking a favor and say thank you no matter what. You may not think that makes a big difference but it does.

2. Change roles every once in a while- Let him cook dinner and you take out the trash. Let him watch the kids for an hour and you do a little yard work. This keeps certain duties from becoming a routine and then neither one of you expects it from the other.

3.Go out of your way- try at least once a week to do something special for your husband, wife, boyfriend or girlfriend. Even if it is something small like writing them a "Love note". Make sure they know how you feel about them and that you appreciate everything they do. You don't have to bring home roses and chocolate every night, that old saying ' Its the little things that matter the most", is still very true in most cases.

This day and age it is harder than ever to make time for each other. Both men and women in most families are forced to work and take care of a family. Even if its only five minutes, try and make time for your loved ones. The last thing anyone wants in life is to lose a loved on and not be sure if they actually knew how much you loved them and appreciated them. It only takes one breath to say " Thank you, and I love you!"

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