by C.K. Matthews

Created on: November 24, 2009

When someone has becomed angered there is generally a reason. Whether or not you agree with the reason is irrelevant. The reason is real to the person who is angry. Does anyone really get angry for no reason at all? Something triggered the anger. Depending on the circumstances walking away is not always the correct answer. According to Anger Management Expert Mike Fisher there is a better solution.

*What is anger?

Anger is a basic human emotion just as love, happiness, and sadness. It can be described as an unpleasant feeling caused from the feeling of being wronged. To react as if someone is wrong by being angry would be to deny the person the right to feel a normal emotion.

Anger can also be a result of feeling frustrated as when a parent is trying to get through to a stubborn child or when ever one feels as if the other is not listening or does not care enough to listen. Right or wrong the feeling is real to the person who is angry.

Anger can also be a substitute for another emotion the person is less capable of dealing with such as a deep saddness.

*Who experiences anger?

Everyone experiences anger although each of us experience it to different degrees depending on the situation and the individuals history.

*How is anger displayed?

There are physcial signs such as when a person tightens their fist. When someone is angry their whole body can tense up as the brain releases neurotransmitter chemicals which cause the person to experience a burst of energy that can last up to several minutes. Other physical signs may be discoloring in the face caused by a raise in heart rate and blood pressure.

Yelling is a typical outward sign of anger. Although when someone yells at you it can be annoying and sometimes frightening it is not life-threatening.

Throwing things is another sign of anger and some people are more prone to violent burst of anger such as hitting or worse. Although violence should never be tolerated the emotion itself should not be set aside as if it were not worth anything. If you are a victim of violence regardless of emotion you need to get out and call 911. The feeling of being wronged can be dealt with later through therapy.

*How to diffuse the situation?

Walking away from someone who is angry is not always the solution as it can easily be translated as saying. "I do not care about what you have to say." The last thing you want to do is tell the person how irrational their behavior or emotion is. This will only add fuel to the fire as it

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