by C.K. Matthews

Created on: November 24, 2009

Did you know one spouse can clean out a joint bank account, have your individual bank accounts froze, and have you court ordered out of your home within 24 hours of being served divorce papers regardless of "fault" or "no-fault"? Not only could you be homeless with no cash but then ordered to pay outrageous amounts of child support and alimony just because the other person filed first. Within 24 hours, without any notice at all you can become homeless with no access to money and no access to your own children through no-fault of your own. It has been done more times than many realize.

Should it be legal for any one individual to be able to cause such devastation in another person's life just because of irreconcilable differences? Irreconcilable differences is the grounds for a no-fault divorce. Depending on your perspective, maybe you have been cheated on, you probably think the dumb fool gets what he or she deserves. Rarely is there ever any one person responsible in the breakup of a marriage. Sure it will work itself out through the court system, assuming you have enough money for the attorneys, but in the end it is only the attorneys who win. They have all your money as they go home to their own families while you are left devastated and alone.

Now think of the children? If the irreconcilable differences are not worth duking it out in court with a fault divorce then chances are someone is just being selfish. Why put the children through the pain and suffering a divorce can create just because an adult (or two) is being selfish.

Do the words, Until death do we part mean anything to anyone anymore? Maybe if it were harder to get a divorce people would think twice before getting married. Nobody said marriage would be easy. Ask any couple who has been married for more than 60 years what the secret is and they will tell you, It takes commitment, communication and compromise to make a marriage work.

Some may argue that no-fault divorces are cheaper than fault divorces because it takes less time to go through the court system. A reasonable solution would be to require prenuptial agreements before people commit to marriage. This helps in three ways First it helps one person see how the other person will react to conflict. If two people cannot come to reasonable solutions while they are still in love then chances are they will not be able to work through their conflicts during marriage. The second way it helps is that when conflicts do arise, and they will, both

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