by Das Govind

Created on: November 23, 2009   Last Updated: November 24, 2009

Should parents expect their married children to help them financially? I think that parents should not expect their married children to help them financially as this creates conflict in the family. Many adult children have a mortgage, car payments and children of their own. They also have spouses who may not be so keen on supporting the parents financially. Some parents overdue it and expect too much from the married children. Parents have to learn that they cannot rely on their children to give them and provide everything for them.

Parents should look after their children, and give them good advice on how to look forward to the future. Many parents have the right though, to acquire money spent on the adult child, if they struggled and educated the child, and he/she is doing very well. Unfortunately the parent does not have the right of expecting too much financially from the child, and the parents should take into consideration that their child is living their own life, and he/she has his/her own expenses to meet every month. Adult children will generally think of their parents , and it is right for them to do things for them.

Parents should be given an x amount of money every month, but this is just for their living expenses. Adult children concentrating too much on their parents can also have detrimental effects on them, The spouse of the adult child could get very upset, and feel that a lot of money is going towards the parents. This should be avoided. All adult children, who earn good salaries should give a part that they can afford to the parents, but they do not have to overdo it. Parents should also play the game, and any decent parent will have a medical plan if he/she gets sick, and also have a good pension plan.

Adult children generally have children of their own, and they have to provide them not only with a schooling education, but also a tertiary education. Many people feel that they have too much of expenses and why should they help their parent spout. Parents shold not expect their married children to help them out financially as the adult child will have financial challenges of him/herself. The adult child sometimes may be doing two or three jobs just to stay afloat, and with the increasing prices of everything today, it is becoming increasing difficult to cope. Parents should have planned their financial future way in advance.

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