by Ivanka Mogilska

Created on: November 23, 2009

Making love is like to communicate in a language much richer than the language of words. And very personal, understandable only for you and your partner.

If you want to speak the same language with your partner, open your heart for him. If you are not relaxed, you can not feel your partner and give him what he needs. You also will not be able to feel something special, because much of the pleasure of making love is to feel the pleasure you give to your partner.

Do not be shy. If you and your partner are in the bed already, it means that he likes you. He accepts you as you are. So you have nothing to be ashamed of. If you are shy, you can not say or show what makes you feel good and your partner can feel lonely. This can mortify his desire to make love with you again, while, if you are not ashamed, you could show him your real desires and feelings and this could make him fall in love even more.

You have secret desires and do not want to share them. Everyone has his sexual fantasies. If your fantasies are too hot or a little strange, that does not mean that you can not share them or that make you a perverse type. And may be your understanding of "unbridled" has nothing in common with partner's understanding of "unbridle". Maybe your partner feels that you have inhibitions or worries or that you want something but you do not say. So he can thing that he is too riotous for you or that he can not give you what you want, in both cases he will try to solve a problem that is not very clear for him. This will surely lead to disaster. So tell your fantasies to your partner and asked him to share his. Maybe some of them you can make together.

Do not extort a confession or promises from your partner while you making love. You just make him feel blackmailed.

If you begin to make love and you tell him: "This time I hope you to succeed" or "What if this time you did not succeed again" or something similar, you'd better stop. This is not support. And your partner will not succeed. With certainty. Women and men can not get to finish due to many different reasons. And not necessarily be a problem in the partner. You've may be just drank more or oversmoke or may be you just tired.

And last but most important thing. Remember that everything in bed is allowed while brings pleasure of both parties. Experiment!

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